Sunday, July 4, 2010

Fear of the Unknown.

There is this common misconception that Men are fearless when it comes to sexual intercourse and that Women are the careful ones, the emotional ones. Well, this isn't necessarily true, though. There are some things that we women do that scare the shit out of men when it comes sex. So, ladies...

1. You forgo protection.

Most of us think that men don't want to use condoms during sex because it hinders the "full" experience of it all. Well, some men might say that but then you should be smart enough to know that these are not the men you ought to be getting jiggy with. The men you should be sleeping with feel immense pressure when it comes to having unprotected sex because of the consequences which might follow, i.e. them becoming baby daddies or (God forbid) STD's. So, girls, even if they don't say so, strap on that raincoat, seriously.

2. Post-coital commitment talk.

Men cringe at the thought of their women talking about commitment right after engaging in steamy, hot sex. You telling him that you want a June wedding, 3 children and a penthouse somewhere in the future really does give him the creeps mostly because, after sex, they really want to just sleep it off knowing that they've just given you the best orgasm of your life. Thank your lucky stars that he even wants to cuddle in the first place.

3. You make him your bitch.

Yes, we all love the occasional rough romp in the sack and let's admit it, all the dirty talk really does get us off. However, you have to know that there is a limit. For example, saying "Oh, yeah baby, harder, harder" is very very different from saying "Come on, you bastard, you can fuck me harder than that. What are you a pussy??!!". Get it? So keep the trash talking at bay while having yourselves a jolly good time. He still wants to know that he is in control, so give him that, at least you'll get some good lovin' out of it as well.

4. You think he's a porn star.

If you are having/have had sex, you've most definitely watched porn. Don't think for a second that you're gonna get the same thing you see in those videos. Your boyfriend/husband might not be hung, or that skilled or talented in bed. So don't expect him to do things that he can't do. Excessive demands in the bedroom are one of the things that turn a man off. He likes to think that he knows what he's doing and he's giving you the time of your life. Don't pin your expectations on a porn star who's hung like a horse and does stunts in the bedroom that make your knickers do back flips. Appreciate him for what he's willing to do. Experimentation is fine, but if he doesn't like it, then stop. Sex is a two-way street and he needs to enjoy it as much as you do.


So girls, these are just the few that I've come up with. If any of you know more, please please please comment so that we girls know how you feel about certain things. And yes, you can post as anonymous.

Happy Sex-ing!
S.M.






3 comments:

Ridhwan A. said...

Spooning is the holy grail of sex. If you can't get a man to cuddle you, just forget about the commitment talk. because obviously, one thing that he's committed about is getting his angry inch in your vajayjay.

Kan?

hobbit1964 said...

I shalt not be harsh.
One day these myths shall fall by the wayside. Have them not mistaken for enduring elucidity.
Gentleness will be yours, when what is special remains special in a sanctuary that only the two who tapestry their lovemaking recognise as sacred.
For all abandon is still found in the embrace of exclusivity and beauty therein is inescapable and wants no definition.
I too am a sinner, and I am fallen, maybe so more than other men.
But I have not been chastised for it, and all these that are made the caution of many are but a portion of the celebration of the life we share.

SandraC said...

oh i love the commitment talks thingy but it doesnt work with all men. most of em just want no.1 and a good sleep like u said. very honest post. thumbs up!