There are moments in life when certain events occur that make you stop and think; Oh, wait…this isn’t how it’s supposed to be. Somehow, somewhere, something goes wrong and you’re forced to stop dead in your tracks to recover, to heal and to reflect. If you deny that this has ever happened to you, then you’re either a toddler or you’re too old to even remember. Because the truth is, everyone goes through it. Be it a substantial period of hardship, or even a moment’s worth of distress. We’ve all seen its face...
…and we all think that it is the ugliest thing ever. Ever.
We come from different walks of life so that provides for different lifestyles, different needs, different expectations and altogether, different experiences. Therefore, what I find distressing/disturbing or what I would describe as being in a state of adversity would be totally different from what your opinion might be on the issue. For example, not being able to complete a particular assignment or task might be applicable to a student, perhaps, one who has nothing else to think about other than his studies. On the other end of the spectrum, not being able to provide for one’s family, to put food on the table or even to pay the bills might be the problem faced by a jobless, divorced mother of 6 children. You get the picture, don’t you?
Life is a rollercoaster, darling. Sometimes you’re up and the next minute you’re down. Don’t let it beat you.
Why do people keep saying that? I mean, is that supposed to make you feel better? FYI, rollercoasters are fun. Being knee-deep in shit, however, is no trip to Disneyland. Sheesh. Well, it doesn’t make me feel any better. It doesn’t even bandage the wound. What I’m saying is that, there is no “one size fits all” phrase that you can say to any Peter, Paul or Mary whenever their facing some agonizing times. The fact is; nobody handles any one situation the same way as other people do. Human beings are unique and so are our solutions to our problems.
That’s just the thing now isn’t it? The simple fact that we do go through times of hardship symbolizes the responsibility that we have to shoulder on as human beings. What? Did you really think we were put here, on this piece of land, so that we could go on with life without experiencing how precious it is? How frangible life can be? Having to struggle constantly reminds us that we have to remain vigil. To not take life for granted, to not miss opportunities, to not be complacent as life passes us by while we reap its benefits. No, there must be a price to pay. I believe so.
This isn’t for the faint-hearted. LOL.
Being in a state of adversity is like going through a tumble in your washing machine—very, very uncomfortable and you get a banging headache right after. It gets even harder when accompanied by one’s capricious refusal to acknowledge the fact that there is a problem present, and there needs to be a countering proposal. I mean, really, life throws a curve ball and you’re just going to sit there and hope that it misses you? Jeez, what a pussy.
Life’s like that, you know…it won’t let you rest. That’s a given. Ahh, but beware, the second you start doubting your ability to straighten the mess out, that’s when the real problem starts. Oh ye of little faith… Never. Never doubt your ability to find your way out of something that causes you pain and suffering. One should never allow one’s self to be crippled with self-pity and self-loathing. Come on, you’re better than that and you damn well know it!
A man is judged by the length and size of his penis. NOT!
How you overcome your state of dilemma is ultimately the measure of your will to keep on going, to keep on living and a testament to your courage to screw life in the ass and telling it to “take it like a man!” Well, that really is the point, isn’t it? You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on with it! Stop moping around waiting and hoping for your life to get any better. Get off your ass and do something about it. No one’s promising you a full recovery. Please, get real. Life’s a bitch, always has been, always will be. But that’s my point—you must now be the bigger bitch. Wrestle the bull, and grab it by its horns. The bull will undoubtedly continue to struggle, but at least you’ll be on top of it.
Jyeah! Cyberspace-five!
You didn’t cyberspace-five, did you? Boo you!
I can tell you right now that if you Google “great stories of overcoming adversity”, you’ll come up with amazing feats of Paralympians, able to win gold medals despite their predicament, or children in war-ridden countries, surviving with virtually nothing to their name and not to mention the fear they dwell in every single day. Yes, there are 1000 and one stories on the subject. What’s yours? It might not be as legendary, or as riveting or as heart-felt as those other stories, but who’s to say yours doesn’t matter?
The point is; we all have one.
So losers, Suit Up!
It’s gonna be a bumpy ride.
